Managing sibling insecurity

Contributed by : Asha Lalwani, Juhi Mishra   
Managing sibling insecurity

Every child needs full attention of a parent. So, pause and reflect on your parenting to make sure none of your children feel left out.

Every child needs full attention of a parent. While you are busy with the younger one, your elder child will experience a range of emotions, from excitement to jealousy or may be responsible and caring. In order to seek your attention, the elder child may show more tantrums or misbehave or refuse to eat. These emotions are short-lived but if not addressed well can have lasting impact on a child’s mind.

Here are a few ways to make sure that your elder child does not feel neglected:

  • Let them not feel left out: Take an extra care to ensure that the elder child never feels neglected (unintentionally though). Ask their suggestions for picking up clothes for newborn, choosing the toys for little one and more. Make sure you spend equal time with both the kids
  • Avoid giving excuses: Never make the younger one an excuse for not attending the elder child – “we can’t go to the park/playground as the baby is sleeping” “Keep quiet the baby will wake up” “After I attend the baby, I will listen to you” Instead tell him/her , “ We will play together when the baby wakes up, We will go to the park together May be giving a hope and the feeling of togetherness will help the child.
  • Pay more attention: Express extra care and love for elder one, increase your daily hugs and play some games or increase story time for the elder one.
  • Avoid comparing: This comes unintentionally but it can have a strategic impact on a child’s mind. Little things like who crawled first, child’s weight or who walked first can be taken as criticism by the elder one.

Ensure both the children get equal attention and feel loved.

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