A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and so much more. Throughout your parenting journey, make sure you are not saying things or acting out in a way that could damage your child(ren) mentally. Sometimes parents are not aware that their actions affect their child(ren) negatively, and sometimes parents overlook it and justify their bad behaviour due to their stress. Here are a few practices which you should avoid telling your child(ren): Pick these up right now. I don't want you leaving a mess like that again.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't like this mess you are leaving. Can you please clean this up when you have time? You should know better.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's OK not to know some things. Here, I will help you out. You're a bad kid.Instead, say:&nbsp;Can you tell me why you behaved/acted in such a way? I feel it wasn't right, is there anything you want to talk about? Or Else.&nbsp;Example: Eat dinner, or else you won't get your dessert.Instead, say:&nbsp;How about you take a healthy dinner quickly so that we can all enjoy dessert together?&nbsp; Stop being shy.Instead, say:&nbsp;You can come to say hi to your aunt when you are ready. You should set a good example for your brother.Instead, say:&nbsp;Your brother looks up to you; you're such a good role model. Wait until your father/mother gets home.Instead, say:&nbsp;You're grounded because you said a bad word. I will never forgive you.Instead, say:&nbsp;What you did was not acceptable, but we can look past it and move on if you think the next time. I'm ashamed of you.Instead, say:&nbsp;Although I feel bad about what you did, I love you for who you are. Don't worry; everything will be OK.Instead, say:&nbsp;Mom and Dad are always nearby, and we're going to set up a plan in case of emergency. Here, I'll do it.Instead, say:&nbsp;Let's do it together!" Don't cryInstead, say:&nbsp;I know you're sad, and it's OK to cry. It's OK to let out your emotions. Let me hug you. If you don't clean your room, you're going to be in big trouble.Instead, say:&nbsp;When your room is clean, then you may go out to play. Family finances aren't your business.Instead, say:&nbsp;Finances are how we make and manage money, and when you like, we will teach you what we know. I'm disappointed in you.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm surprised and was not expecting this to occur. Come here, NOW.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's almost time to go. Do you want one minute or two? Because I said so.Instead, say:&nbsp;Explaining why you feel a certain way about something. We can't afford that.Instead, say:&nbsp;We're not going to buy that because we're saving our money for more important things. Don't talk to strangers.Instead, say:&nbsp;What would you do if a man you don't know offers you candy and a ride home? OR If anyone makes you feel sad, scared, or confused, you need to tell me right away. You should listen to adults.Instead, say:&nbsp;You need to listen to your parents. Don't be greedy!Instead, say:&nbsp;Would you please be kind and share your toys with your friend? Who taught you this? (about mischief)Instead, say:&nbsp;Why did you do that? Look at this lovely girl.Instead, say:&nbsp;I love you. You can do this too. I do everything for you.Instead, say:&nbsp;We do things for you because we love you, so please do for me. Do I have to tell you this 100 times?Instead, say:&nbsp;I've told you this before, but could you please. That's only for boys/girls.Instead:&nbsp;Say nothing at all. Try your best at raising gender-neutral children. You live under my roof, so you follow my rules.Instead, say:&nbsp;You know the household rules. Please stick to them. That's how I was raised.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't think it's a good idea to do [ ]. Even my parents used to tell me that [ ]. You're just like your mother/father!Instead say:&nbsp;I’m not happy with [ ] because [ ]. I told you so.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm sorry to hear about [ ] ... let this be a lesson. It's just a little white lie.Instead, explain to them that it's OK to use white lies to be polite and not hurt someone's feelings. Explain to them the fine line between lies and little white lies. Man up. / Be a man.Never disregard your son's feelings. Don't teach them that showing emotions is weak. To show emotions is only human. Why can't you be more like your sister?Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't quite like this behaviour of yours. Do you think we can work on it? If you loved me, you wouldn't do (this/that).Don't teach them that love needs to be proven all the time. Love comes without ifs and buts. I wish you'd never been born. / I hate you.No matter how angry you are, this is the worst thing to say. You would be scarring your child. Why can't you do anything right?Instead, say: What's the barrier? Is there anything I can help you with? I don't believe you.Instead, say: This comes as a shock for me. But I am sure you can tell me the whole thing. There's nothing to be afraid of.Instead, say:&nbsp;Everyone has their fair share of fears. We appreciate that you shared your feelings with us. We promise we will work on this together. You're lazy/stupid/selfish.Never label your child. Never. Your friends don't do that.Comparison will never bring any positive change. Accept your child for who they are and appreciate them. You should have done better.Praise them for their achievement. Do not over expect. You don't know what you're talking about. / You're too young to know what you want.Often children know what they want or how they feel. Saying this will show your distrust in their feelings. You'll never be able to do that.Instead, encourage and push your child to do better, of course, without any comparison. You're so fat/skinny, or You're going to get fat/skinny.Never attribute a child's identity to their looks. You make me so mad.Calm your anger down, and then talk to your child(ren).&nbsp;Instead, say:&nbsp;We will talk about this after a while when I am in the right state of my mind. Impact of such phrases on children:<ol><li>Antisocial behaviour</li><li>Poor resilience</li><li>Depression</li><li>Aggression</li><li>Lack of empathy</li><li>Difficulty in relationships</li><li>Self-doubt</li><li>Lack of self-confidence</li><li>Anxiety</li></ol>

A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety and so on

Speaking Gently: Things you should never say to your child

A few things said in haste messes up a child’s brain and have a huge impact psychologically.

Things You Should Never Say to Your Child

Children should be trained for swimming after the age of 4 years because that is when they are developmentally ready. Swimming Essentials to be kept handy while going swimming with your child:<ul><li>Swimming costume</li><li>Towel</li><li>Shampoo and Shower gel</li><li>Hair clips and bands</li><li>Swimming Cap</li><li>Goggles (Swimming Glasses)</li><li>Armbands</li><li>Swim nappies (if required)</li><li>Tan lotion</li></ul> Children are often quite excited about water, but do consider these water safety basics when you are in a pool with your child:<ul><li>Keep a continuous watch on kids; this is mandatory everywhere - in a bathtub or in a swimming pool.</li><li>Check the quality and strength of the tubes that your child is using.</li><li>Don’t be pushy. If the child is too scared, take them out of the water and try again later.</li><li>If the child is learning to swim, an adult should swim at arm’s length (close to the child).</li><li>Children should be away from the pool when adults are not around, never leave the child unsupervised.</li></ul>

Swimming pools can pose some danger so it's better to take precautions. Children should be trained for swimming and taken care of while about basic water safety rules.

Swimming Pool essentials for kids to make their pool time safe

Swimming pools can pose some danger so it's better to take proper precautions.

Safe Swimming Pool Essentials and Considerations for Children

Why is Children’s Day Celebrated?Children’s Day is celebrated on November 14th all over India. This signifies the birthday anniversary of Jawaharlal Nehru, as he was fond of children and was lovingly called Chacha Nehru by kids across the country. He always believed that children should be given the utmost love and affection, as nurturing them and raising them in the right way would determine the future of India. After all, they are the leaders of tomorrow! As a parent, you probably want to plan something special and unique each year, which can be hard when you’re busy throughout the day. Don’t worry, we’re here to help! Here is a list of fun ways and activities to host on Children’s Day. 1. Attend special eventsChildren’s Day is a special day for kids. It’s like a combination of their birthdays, Christmas, and other celebrations. To celebrate this fun day, most malls, parks, and stores also have great events planned for children of all ages.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/dfc99b79b923772e08e3a53c050809ab.jpg_image_1637216500062.jpg" width="286"> 2. Children’s Day theme workbookLet your child discover India and one of the most fascinating Indian holidays with this <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/57kB3F" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Free PDF printable worksheet</a>. Enhance your child's skills by printing the worksheet and using the printable worksheet to learn more about Children’s Day.<a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/57kB3F" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/imgpsh_fullsize_anim_%288%29.jfif_image_1637224605933.jfif" width="287" style=""></a> 3. Plan one day picnicCelebrate this special day out with your kids with a good old-fashioned picnic, including kids’ beloved juices, sandwiches, a blanket, etc., at the amusement park. Everybody loves picnics, but Children’s Day picnics are all about family and spending time with your kids. You can make your children’s favourite food and center the picnic around them.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/img-20190126-5c4c6911c9b1e.jpg_image_1637216526459.jpg" width="286"> 4. Disney partyDisney characters are an iconic part of most people’s childhood, so planning a Disney-themed party on Children’s Day will make your kids’ party special and fun. You can get themed Disney character costumes, decorations relating to Disney’s fairy tales, and even screen some popular Disney movies.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/disney-costumes.jpg_image_1637219921399.jpg" width="285"> 5. Treasure hunt&nbsp;A treasure hunt is a perfect activity to enable children’s fun-loving and adventurous nature while keeping them occupied and entertained all through this day. Make the prize a Children’s Day-themed one to emphasize the special nature of the game for the day.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/maui-treasure-hunt-21.jpg_image_1637219943598.jpg" width="285"> 6. Pool gamesA day at the pool on this Children’s Day can be the perfect recipe for lifelong memories. Add to that fun children’s pool games, and it is a recipe for an unforgettable day. Make sure you take a beach ball with you, so they can play games like water polo. You can also teach them Marco Polo and other fun pool games on this day to make it special.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/fc15b5f37b075434aac00fd9936f62e3.little-pools_kids-pools_your-kids-and-their-friends-will-love-your-pool.jpg_image_1637219964055.jpg" width="284"> 7. HikingSome of the best memories that can be made are those sunrises or sunsets over a mountaintop/river or lakeside. This is especially true with your kids. Take them out for an easy hike this Children’s Day and have a picnic at the top of the mountain or hill. Watch a sunrise or sunset at the peak before making your way back. Maybe, stop at a local restaurant and order some of your children’s favourite desserts.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/hike-6.jpg_image_1637219981501.jpg" width="285"> 8. Dance partyDancing is fun; there is absolutely no doubt about that. A great and cheap way to celebrate Children’s Day is to clear up the furniture in your living room, put on some of your kid’s favourite songs, and dance it out with them all evening. Once they’re tired, finish the day with ice cream and their favourite foods to experience a truly magical bonding experience with your kids on one of their favourite days of the year.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/601d98163a4b0a57faf39c93_blog_and_products-2-2.jpg_image_1637220179659.jpg" width="284"> 9. Bake with themSometimes, being a part of the preparations is as special as the main event. Have your kids knead the dough with you, add some flavour, make some icing, and of course, have them taste the cookie/cake dough while you bake together. You can give them cookie cutters in different shapes, sprinkles, and other decoration items, and this will enhance their creativity. Once you’re done, sit with them and have a small party where you eat those special cookies.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/featuredbakingrecipesimage-scaled.jpg_image_1637220497079.jpg" width="285"> 10. Movie marathonsThere are few things that kids enjoy more than a good movie. Organize a movie marathon for your kids, this Children’s Day, with a screening of their favourite movies, popcorn, and a blanket to cuddle under with them. These are the Children’s Day memories that last, and they are the ones that are the most special.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/istockphoto-1176372559-612x612.jpg_image_1637221064995.jpg" width="285"> 11. Visit a waterparkFew things are as memorable as a family visit to the water park. Kids adore rides, ice cream, food, and shows at water parks. So, take them to an amusement park or a water park on this special day.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/happy-family-resting-aqua-park-260nw-1538121506.jpg_image_1637221388812.jpg" width="287"> 12. Pizza partyYour kids and their friends, as well as their family, can have a fun time bonding over pizza. Organize a pizza party by baking or ordering your children’s favourite pizzas. You can make the night a little extra special with a chocolate dessert pizza. Make sure the pizza is accompanied by games to make the night a bit extra special.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/family-pizza.jpg_image_1637221875982.jpg" width="286"> 13. Paint partyFew things are as fun for kids as painting. This Children’s Day, get a lot of empty canvases and finger paints that are kid-friendly and let your children unleash their creativity. Make sure that you wash their hands clean after the night is done and put up their masterpieces on the fridge to appreciate for years to come.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/family-painting.png_image_1637222168744.png" width="285"> 14. Visit old-age/retirement homesApart from parents, children are most loved and pampered either by grandparents or old-age people. If your kids do not have grandparents, then you can visit retirement homes every Children’s Day. Old-age people love kids; they will feel loved and welcomed, and on the other hand, your kids will become more compassionate towards senior citizens. If your kids have grandparents, then you can simply visit them and spend a cheerful day with them.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/old-peoples-home-for-4-year-olds-e1554203422842.jpg_image_1637222510614.jpg" width="286"> Children’s Day is one of the best days of the year for kids. It should be filled with fun, excitement and joy. Make sure that this Children’s Day, the activities you plan are safe and unique. It is also worth remembering that making this day special doesn’t always have to be expensive. It just has to be special for your kids, so instead of buying them expensive gifts, a great way to spend the day would be doing activities like arts and crafts with them. Have a great, unique and special Children’s Day with your children. Hope you like the above ideas? Would you try them out for the children? We’d love to know how you plan to celebrate with your children this time. Wishing you all a Happy Children’s Day!

Here are some interesting activities that your little ones can try on Children's day and have a wonderful time together with your children. Happy Children's Day!

14 Fun Ways to Celebrate Children's Day on 14th November

One of the most memorable days of the year for a child is Children’s Day, which is dedicated entirely to kids.

14 Fun Ways to Celebrate Childrens Day

Do you remember the stories that you read as a child? Moral stories can needn’t be serious, but they can be funny at the same time help your child learn something. We have compiled a list of 07 short moral stories that are inspirational, from India, and from around the world. <h3>1. The Boy Who Cried, Wolf</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the_boy_who_cried%2C_wolf.webp_image_1638188646554.webp" width="359">There was a young boy whose father, a farmer, had asked him to take their herd of sheep grazing every day.One day, the boy was extremely bored as he watched over the sheep and so he cried: “Wolf! Wolf!”On hearing his cries, the villagers rushed to help him chase the wolf away and save the sheep.When they saw the grinning boy and realised he had cried wolf for his amusement, they scolded him and told him to not cry wolf!The next day, the boy cried out that the wolf was there. The villagers came, scolded him again, and left.Later that same day, a wolf came and terrorized the sheep.The boy cried, “Wolf! Wolf! Please help me.”But, the villagers assumed that he was pulling a silly prank again and did not come to his rescue. The sheep ran away and the boy cried.Moral of the story: Don’t lie or engage in foolish pranks, for no one will believe a liar even when he is telling the truth! <h3>2. The Golden Touch Of Midas</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the_golden_touch_of_midas.jpg_image_1638188804006.jpg" width="365">A long time ago, there lived a king in Greece named Midas.He was extremely wealthy and had all the gold he could ever need. He also had a daughter whom he loved very much.One day, Midas saw a Satyr (an angel) who was stuck and was in trouble. Midas helped the Satyr and asked for his wish to be granted in return.The Satyr agreed and Midas wished for everything he touched to be turned to gold. His wish was granted.Extremely excited, Midas went home to his wife and daughter touching pebbles, rocks, and plants on the way, which turned into gold.As his daughter hugged him, she turned into a golden statue.Having learnt his lesson, Midas begged the Satyr to reverse the spell who granted that everything would go back to their original state.Moral of the story: Stay content and grateful for what you have. Greed will not get you anywhere. <h3>3. The Foolish Thief</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the_foolish_thief.jpg_image_1638188856227.jpg" width="362">Once, a wealthy merchant came to King Akbar’s court to seek help from Birbal. He suspected that one of his servants had robbed him.On hearing this, Birbal thought of a clever plan and summoned the merchant’s servants.He gave each servant a stick of the same length. He told them that the thief’s stick would grow two inches by the next day.The next day, Birbal summoned the servants again. He noticed that a servant’s stick was two inches shorter than the others.He knew who the thief was.The foolish thief had cut the stick shorter by two inches as he thought it would grow two inches. Thus, proving his guilt.Moral of the story: Truth and justice will always prevail. <h3>4. Two Frogs With The Same Problem</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/two_frogs_with_the_same_problem.png_image_1638188962564.png" width="346">Once, a group of frogs was roaming around the forest in search of water. Suddenly, two frogs in the group accidentally fell into a deep pit.The other frogs worried about their friends in the pit.Seeing how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that there was no way they could escape the deep pit and that there was no point in trying.They continued to constantly discourage them as the two frogs tried to jump out of the pit. But keep falling back.Soon, one of the two frogs started to believe the other frogs — that they’ll never be able to escape the pit and eventually died after giving up.The other frog keeps trying and eventually jumps so high that he escapes the pit. The other frogs were shocked at this and wondered how he did it.The difference was that the second frog was deaf and couldn’t hear the discouragement of the group. He simply thought they were cheering him on!Moral of the story: People’s opinion of you will affect you, only if you believe it to be so. It’s better to believe in yourself. <h3>5. The Milkmaid and Her Pail</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the_milkmaid_and_her_pail.jpg_image_1638189037353.jpg" width="348">There was once a milkmaid named Patty.She milked her cow and carried the two pails of milk she fetched on a stick and set out to sell the milk at the market.As she was walking to the market, she began to daydream about what she would do with the money she fo for the milk.She thought of buying a hen and selling its eggs and she planned on becoming wealthy.She dreamt of buying a cake, a basket of strawberries, a fancy dress, and even a new house with the money she would make selling the eggs and the milk!In her excitement, she forgot about the pails she was carrying and began to skip.Suddenly, she realised that the milk was spilling down and when she checked her pails, they were empty.Moral of the story: Don’t count your chickens before they hatch! It is important to focus on the process of achieving success and not just success alone. <h3>6. The Elephant Circus</h3><img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/elepahnt_circus.jpg_image_1638189224771.jpg" width="361">Once upon a time in a circus, five elephants performed circus tricks. They were kept tied up with weak rope that they could’ve easily escaped, but did not.One day, a man visiting the circus asked the ringmaster: “Why haven’t these elephants broken the rope and run away?”The ringmaster replied: “From when they were young, the elephants were made to believe that they were not strong enough to break the ropes and escape.”It was because of this belief that they did not even try to break the ropes now.Moral of the story: Don’t give in to the limitations of society. Believe that you can achieve everything you want to!<h3> </h3>7. The Elephants And The Mice<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/1_xvfat_v8xumqnkx7-3jcka.png_image_1638189285226.png" width="350">In an earthquake-hit village abandoned by humans, a colony of mice lived. Near the village was a lake, which was used by a herd of elephants.The elephants would have to cross the village to go to the lake. Thus, one day, as they walked through, they trampled a lot of mice.The leader of the mice met with the elephants and requested them to take a different route to the lake. He promised them that their favour would be returned in the time of their need.The elephants laughed. How could such small mice help these large elephants in any way? But then, they agreed to take a different route.Not so long after, the mice heard that hunters had caught the herd of elephants and were tied in nets.Immediately, they rush to rescue the elephants. They gnawed through the nets and ropes with their sharp teeth.The leader of the elephants repeatedly thanked the mice for their help!Moral of the story: A friend in need is a friend indeed. Make sure you help your friends out whenever they need it. They should always be able to count on you. That’s all folks!We hope children like these short yet interesting stories with morals that we have read growing up!There are more and more stories with morals on <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/s/moral-stories" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bee Stories</a>.

Short stories with moral values will teach your children some important lessons which they will remember always.

07 Must Read Short Moral Stories For Children

Short stories with moral values will teach your children some important lessons which they will remember always.

<h2>Here are the quick tips on How to tell a joke to kids.</h2> <h2>Remember, Jokes aren’t funny unless you tell them in a funny way. Read on to know more quick tips.</h2> <ul><li>Believe in the joke you are telling - If you think it's funny, kids are more likely to agree.</li><li>Relax - If you feel awkward, so will the kids.</li><li>Vary your voice - Monotone speech makes the joke boring.</li><li>Signal the punchline - A little pause adds to the suspense.</li><li>If they don't laugh, give up - Desperation isn't funny.</li><li>Believe in the joke you are telling - If you think it's funny, kids are more likely to agree.</li></ul>

Jokes aren’t funny unless you tell it in a funny way. Read on to know more quick tips

How to tell a joke to children that makes them laugh

Jokes aren’t funny unless you tell it in a funny way. Read on to know more quick tips

Getting fresh air and natural sunlight is good for both you and your baby, no matter how recently she was born. Try to take the baby out before 10 AM and after 5  PM.

 When should I take my newborn outside  

The idea about keeping the child indoors for the first few months after the birth is not correct, you can take your child outside to breathe some fresh air as long as the child is healthy. Consider this when you take your child out for a while: 1. Do not overdress or underdress the child. Dress them up without any extra layers. 2. Keep a small blanket handy. 3. Do not take them in the harsh sunlight during the afternoon. Newborns’ skin is delicate and sun rays can be damaging. 4. Keep them away from the place where you know people are ill, as children can catch the infections quickly. 5. Natural light, exercise and fresh air are important for healthy growth of a child. 6. Try to take the baby out before 10 in the morning and after 5 in the evening.

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