Are we exhibiting what we want our kids to be? Call it a harsh reality but children rarely learn from what we preach, they learn from our actions. Take this for an example, an anonymous user on the internet confessed that her child would hit her younger sibling while playing. Her explanation in defence was, “We are playing ‘mommy”. We all aspire to become perfect parents for our kids because we want to inculcate values in them that would make them better human beings. But the larger and the more significant question is do we exhibit that kind of discipline in our behaviour? We expect our children to use modern-day gadgets judiciously but do we supervise our use of these products? We want our kids to watch their words and actions when angry but do we manage our anger appropriately? We want our kids to show decorum and discipline with their daily routine but are we exhibiting ourselves as an example to do the same? Dr Haim Ginott, a renowned child psychologist, pointed out, “Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.” If we give the child an environment of hostility he is more likely to learn to fight. An environment of ridicule and shame can lead to the child resulting being shy and guilty. But similarly, if the child had always lived with tolerance, he learns to become more patient. If he has always received praise, he learns the virtue of appreciation. What is important during the child’s growing years is that we model the kind of behaviour we expect our children to be. It is impossible to not be stressed or angry under circumstances. But when the parents manage their stress and anger appropriately, the message is loud and clear to the kids that it is normal to feel negative at times but it is only the positive attitude towards solving these problems that reap good results. Parents should ‘speak’ and ‘do’ what they expect out of their children. Saying statements like. “I love all kinds of food”, “I love playing outdoors”, “Let’s clean up the mess together”, “Let’s help little brother/sister with eating the food”. These kinds of statements bring about assurance in the kids and before indulging in the wrong they are forced to do what think what they have been taught. The brains of children are like sponges. They absorb everything without discriminating information into right or wrong. Let's set ourselves as better examples for our children. Let's exhibit what we want our children to be.

Are we exhibiting what we want our kids to be? Call it a harsh reality but children rarely learn from what we preach, they learn from our actions.

Children See Children Learn - The pillar of parenting

Being a positive role model for your child can help instil the right attitude and habits from an early age for your child to nurture a healthy lifestyle.

Children See Children Learn ~The pillar of parenting

A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and so much more. Throughout your parenting journey, make sure you are not saying things or acting out in a way that could damage your child(ren) mentally. Sometimes parents are not aware that their actions affect their child(ren) negatively, and sometimes parents overlook it and justify their bad behaviour due to their stress. Here are a few practices which you should avoid telling your child(ren): Pick these up right now. I don't want you leaving a mess like that again.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't like this mess you are leaving. Can you please clean this up when you have time? You should know better.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's OK not to know some things. Here, I will help you out. You're a bad kid.Instead, say:&nbsp;Can you tell me why you behaved/acted in such a way? I feel it wasn't right, is there anything you want to talk about? Or Else.&nbsp;Example: Eat dinner, or else you won't get your dessert.Instead, say:&nbsp;How about you take a healthy dinner quickly so that we can all enjoy dessert together?&nbsp; Stop being shy.Instead, say:&nbsp;You can come to say hi to your aunt when you are ready. You should set a good example for your brother.Instead, say:&nbsp;Your brother looks up to you; you're such a good role model. Wait until your father/mother gets home.Instead, say:&nbsp;You're grounded because you said a bad word. I will never forgive you.Instead, say:&nbsp;What you did was not acceptable, but we can look past it and move on if you think the next time. I'm ashamed of you.Instead, say:&nbsp;Although I feel bad about what you did, I love you for who you are. Don't worry; everything will be OK.Instead, say:&nbsp;Mom and Dad are always nearby, and we're going to set up a plan in case of emergency. Here, I'll do it.Instead, say:&nbsp;Let's do it together!" Don't cryInstead, say:&nbsp;I know you're sad, and it's OK to cry. It's OK to let out your emotions. Let me hug you. If you don't clean your room, you're going to be in big trouble.Instead, say:&nbsp;When your room is clean, then you may go out to play. Family finances aren't your business.Instead, say:&nbsp;Finances are how we make and manage money, and when you like, we will teach you what we know. I'm disappointed in you.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm surprised and was not expecting this to occur. Come here, NOW.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's almost time to go. Do you want one minute or two? Because I said so.Instead, say:&nbsp;Explaining why you feel a certain way about something. We can't afford that.Instead, say:&nbsp;We're not going to buy that because we're saving our money for more important things. Don't talk to strangers.Instead, say:&nbsp;What would you do if a man you don't know offers you candy and a ride home? OR If anyone makes you feel sad, scared, or confused, you need to tell me right away. You should listen to adults.Instead, say:&nbsp;You need to listen to your parents. Don't be greedy!Instead, say:&nbsp;Would you please be kind and share your toys with your friend? Who taught you this? (about mischief)Instead, say:&nbsp;Why did you do that? Look at this lovely girl.Instead, say:&nbsp;I love you. You can do this too. I do everything for you.Instead, say:&nbsp;We do things for you because we love you, so please do for me. Do I have to tell you this 100 times?Instead, say:&nbsp;I've told you this before, but could you please. That's only for boys/girls.Instead:&nbsp;Say nothing at all. Try your best at raising gender-neutral children. You live under my roof, so you follow my rules.Instead, say:&nbsp;You know the household rules. Please stick to them. That's how I was raised.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't think it's a good idea to do [ ]. Even my parents used to tell me that [ ]. You're just like your mother/father!Instead say:&nbsp;I’m not happy with [ ] because [ ]. I told you so.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm sorry to hear about [ ] ... let this be a lesson. It's just a little white lie.Instead, explain to them that it's OK to use white lies to be polite and not hurt someone's feelings. Explain to them the fine line between lies and little white lies. Man up. / Be a man.Never disregard your son's feelings. Don't teach them that showing emotions is weak. To show emotions is only human. Why can't you be more like your sister?Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't quite like this behaviour of yours. Do you think we can work on it? If you loved me, you wouldn't do (this/that).Don't teach them that love needs to be proven all the time. Love comes without ifs and buts. I wish you'd never been born. / I hate you.No matter how angry you are, this is the worst thing to say. You would be scarring your child. Why can't you do anything right?Instead, say: What's the barrier? Is there anything I can help you with? I don't believe you.Instead, say: This comes as a shock for me. But I am sure you can tell me the whole thing. There's nothing to be afraid of.Instead, say:&nbsp;Everyone has their fair share of fears. We appreciate that you shared your feelings with us. We promise we will work on this together. You're lazy/stupid/selfish.Never label your child. Never. Your friends don't do that.Comparison will never bring any positive change. Accept your child for who they are and appreciate them. You should have done better.Praise them for their achievement. Do not over expect. You don't know what you're talking about. / You're too young to know what you want.Often children know what they want or how they feel. Saying this will show your distrust in their feelings. You'll never be able to do that.Instead, encourage and push your child to do better, of course, without any comparison. You're so fat/skinny, or You're going to get fat/skinny.Never attribute a child's identity to their looks. You make me so mad.Calm your anger down, and then talk to your child(ren).&nbsp;Instead, say:&nbsp;We will talk about this after a while when I am in the right state of my mind. Impact of such phrases on children:<ol><li>Antisocial behaviour</li><li>Poor resilience</li><li>Depression</li><li>Aggression</li><li>Lack of empathy</li><li>Difficulty in relationships</li><li>Self-doubt</li><li>Lack of self-confidence</li><li>Anxiety</li></ol>

A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety and so on

Speaking Gently: Things you should never say to your child

A few things said in haste messes up a child’s brain and have a huge impact psychologically.

Things You Should Never Say to Your Child

<ul><li>Protect your child from too much sun. The sun's rays are strongest between 10 AM and 4 PM so avoid taking your child out during these hours.</li><li>If you plan to take your child outside, apply sunscreen to them which provides protection against UV rays. Apply sunscreen 30 minutes before going outside. Reapply every two hours and after being in the water or sweating. Use sunscreen on cloudy days too as the sun’s rays pass through the clouds as well. Do not skip sunscreen if you are taking your child out; only skip if your child is wearing clothes that cover his/her entire body.</li><li>If your baby is less than a year old, keep them out of the sun as much as you can. Dress your baby in lightweight, light-coloured clothing with long sleeves and long pants. Make sure to cover their head.</li><li>Select sunglasses for babies and children that provide 100% UV protection.</li><li>When it is too hot and humid, children should not play outside or exercise for more than 30 minutes at a time.</li><li>Make sure your child drinks plenty of fluids even if they are not thirsty. Water is best of all. Dehydration can cause fatigue and muscle cramping.</li><li>Keep your child covered at all times when outside or sit in the shade as your child’s sensitive skin can get a sunburn. If your child gets sunburn, the best remedy is to use a cold compress for the affected area. If it’s too much, consult a doctor.</li><li>Never leave your kids unattended in a closed car even for a few minutes and even if the windows are open. The temperature inside a closed car increases too quickly and can be fatal for a child.</li></ul>

Taking the right precautionary steps before the arrival of any season will keep your baby safe and healthy.

Handy Summer Care and Tips For Babies

Taking the right precautionary steps before the arrival of any season will keep your baby safe and healthy.

Summer Precautions for Babies

Here are some of the best family sports movies you could consider watching with your kids. 1. The Sandlot Kids (1993)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 101 min | Comedy, Drama, Family&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.8/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the-sandlot.jpg_image_1644410460161.jpg" width="364">In the summer of 1962, a new kid in town is taken under the wing of a young baseball prodigy and his rowdy team, resulting in many adventures. 2. Remember the Titans (2000)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 113 min | Biography, Drama, Sport&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.8/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/mv5bnwfkm2mwyjitnzuxmi00yzvjltlmnwetzjaxnmewytllyze2xkeyxkfqcgdeqxvyntu5mzi1otm%40._v1_.jpg_image_1644410652269.jpg" width="364">The true story of a newly appointed African-American coach and his high school team on their first season as a racially integrated unit.&nbsp;3. Rudy (1993)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 114 min | Biography, Drama, Sport&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.5/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/unnamed.0.jpg_image_1644410679783.jpg" width="365">Rudy has always been told that he was too small to play college football. But he is determined to overcome the odds and fulfil his dream of playing for Notre Dame. 4. Field of Dreams (1989)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 107 min | Drama, Family, Fantasy&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.5/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/dreams-1.jpg_image_1644410704590.jpg" width="366">Iowa farmer Ray Kinsella is inspired by a voice he can't ignore to pursue a dream he can hardly believe. Supported by his wife, Ray begins the quest by turning his ordinary cornfield into a place where dreams can come true. 5. Searching for Bobby Fischer (1993)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 109 min | Biography, Drama, Sport&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.4/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/9f7a3d437a23d82e62402262f8e484fe9f54ef449a6371e767bdd227a4c76096._uy500_ux667_ri_v_ttw_.jpg_image_1644410734692.jpg" width="367">A prepubescent chess prodigy refuses to harden himself in order to become a champion like the famous but unlikable Bobby Fischer. 6. The Karate Kid (1984)&nbsp;&nbsp; PG| 126 min | Action, Drama, Family&nbsp;&nbsp; IMDB Rating: 7.3/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the-karate-kid-1984.jpg_image_1644410754673.jpg" width="365">A martial arts master agrees to teach karate to a bullied teenager. 7. A League of Their Own (1992)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 128 min | Comedy, Drama, Sport&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7.3/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/948f41e64bcf461568ac6ee74bfc8de971de610d8118cb6604934202d2020d04.jpg_image_1644410777053.jpg" width="367">Two sisters join the first female professional baseball league and struggle to help it succeed amidst their own growing rivalry. 8. Cool Runnings (1993)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 98 min | Adventure, Comedy, Family&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 7/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/dti.jpg_image_1644410798032.jpg" width="363">When a Jamaican sprinter is disqualified from the Olympic Games, he enlists the help of a dishonoured coach to start the first Jamaican Bobsled Team. 9. The Mighty Ducks (1992)&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 104 min | Comedy, Drama, Family&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 6.6/10<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the-mighty-ducks-e1597875327580-1024x576.png_image_1644410830088.png" width="359">A self-centred Minnesota lawyer is sentenced to community service coaching a ragtag youth hockey team. 10.&nbsp;Little Giants (1994)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;PG | 107 min | Comedy, Family, Sport&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;IMDB Rating: 6.4/10&nbsp;<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/60028748.jpg_image_1644410850895.jpg" width="360">Misfits form their own opposing team to an elite peewee football team, coached by the elite team coach's brother. Ready to pop some corn and gather the gang for a family movie night? From funny flicks filled with pint-sized pitchers and kooky kickers to award-winning tales of triumph, there's no movie like a sports movie to excite, motivate and inspire your kids. Choose one from our action-packed list, and you're sure to score a crowd-pleasing touchdown–or home run, slam dunk or hole-in-one!

Sports movies teach children some of the most important lessons of life. Here’s a list of sports movies you can watch with your kids to teach valuable lessons.

Must Watch Top 10 Inspirational Sports Movies for Children 

Sports movies teach children some of the most important lessons of life. Sports movies can teach them everything, from overcoming adversity and beating all odds to breaking down cultural and racial barriers, working together as a team, and standing up for what you believe in. Here’s a list of some of the best sports movies you can watch with your kids to teach them these valuable lessons.

Top 10 Inspirational Sports Movies for Children

From time immemorial humans have built spectacular structures, buildings, monuments and other wonderful structures that have amazed historians and common people for generations. Some of these structures have been listed in the wonders of the world. If your child has an interest in history and wants to know about all these amazing structures, we recommend reading this post. The Seven Wonders of the World are the Taj Mahal, the Colosseum, the Chichen Itza, Machu Picchu, Christ the Redeemer, Petra, and the Great Wall of China. <h2>The Taj Mahal</h2> Mausoleum in Agra, India<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/istock-478831658.jpg_image_1644919995550.jpg" width="367"><ul><li>The Taj Mahal has known the world over for its beautiful architecture, history and the tale of love that led to its creation.</li><li>Located in the Indian city of Agra, the Taj Mahal was commissioned in 1632 by the Mughal emperor Shah Jahan as a testament of his love for his departed wife Mumtaz Mahal.</li><li>Apart from housing her tomb, it also contains the tomb of Shah Jahan himself.</li><li>The mausoleum, built with ivory-white marble and precious stones, was designated as a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1983.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/kB0M1d" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Taj Mahal Facts For Children</a>&nbsp; <h2>Colosseum</h2>Historical place in Rome, Italy‎<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/95a24eaa-5e33-4778-b06c-96654f3dbf87.jpg_image_1644920980948.jpg" width="357"><ul><li>Also known as the Flavian Amphitheatre, the Colosseum is an oval-shaped amphitheater located in the center of Rome in Italy.</li><li>Built with concrete and sand, its construction began under Emperor Vespasian in AD 72 and it was completed by his successor, Titus, in AD 80.</li><li>It is the largest amphitheater in the world and had the capacity to host about 80,000 spectators.</li><li>In ancient times, it was used for gladiatorial contests and public spectacles such as mock sea battles.</li><li>Its other activities included animal hunts, famous battle re-enactments, executions, and mythological dramas. Today, it is a popular tourist attraction and an iconic symbol of Imperial Rome.</li></ul> Read More <a href=" https://www.beeparenting.com/u/2zyJbj" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Colosseum Facts For Children</a> <h2>Machu Picchu</h2>Historical place in Peru<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/5120.jpg_image_1644924350549.jpg" width="355"><ul><li>Located in the Eastern Cordillera of southern Peru on a 7,970 ft mountain ridge, Machu Picchu is a 15th-century Inca citadel.</li><li>It is the most familiar icon of Inca civilization, and is often mistaken for the ‘Lost City of the Incas’.</li><li>Most archaeologists believe that it was constructed as an estate for the Inca emperor Pachacuti around the year 1450 and then abandoned a century later at the time of the Spanish conquest.</li><li>The Spanish had no idea about its existence and it was only brought to international attention in 1911 by American historian Hiram Bingham.</li><li>Built with polished dry-stone walls, Machu Picchu has declared a Peruvian Historic Sanctuary in 1981 and a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1983.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/D28O5d" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Machu Picchu Facts For Children</a> <h2>Christ the Redeemer</h2>Historical place in Brazil<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/wp1991636.jpg_image_1644924383798.jpg" width="357"><ul><li>A very well known work of art in Brazil, Christ the Redeemer is an Art Deco statue of Jesus Christ.</li><li>It was created by French sculptor Paul Landowski and built by Brazilian engineer Heitor da Silva Costa, in collaboration with French engineer Albert Caquot.</li><li>Romanian sculptor Gheorghe Leonida fashioned the face.</li><li>Made of reinforced concrete and soapstone, it weighs 635 metric tons and is located at the peak of the 700-metre Corcovado mountain in the Tijuca Forest National Park overlooking the city of Rio de Janeiro.</li><li>Construction began in 1922 and it was completed in 1931.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/8poi1p" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Christ the Redeemer Facts For Children</a> <h2>Chichen Itza</h2>Historical place in Mexico<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/chichen-itza-at-dusk-596317367-59fccc9f4e4f7d001a6e28bc-6413cc54773c455ca95de2ec39b793c8.jpg_image_1644924405885.jpg" width="364"><ul><li>Chichen Itza is an archaeological site located in Tinicum Municipality of Yucatan State in Mexico.</li><li>It was a large pre-Columbian city built by the Maya people and was likely to have been one of the mythical great cities.</li><li>It is one of the most visited archaeological sites in Mexico and consists of buildings like the El Caracol or observatory of Chichen Itza, Temple of the Warriors, Grand Ballcourt, Venus Platform, and others</li><li>It was designated as a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1988.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/B01Xis" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Chichen Itza Facts For Children</a> <h2>Petra</h2>Historical place in Jordan<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/jordans-petra-a-keeper-of-secrets.jpg_image_1644924431539.jpg" width="361"><ul><li>Originally known to its inhabitants as Raqmu, Petra is a historical and archaeological city in southern Jordan.</li><li>It is believed that the area around Petra was inhabited as early as 7,000 BC, and the access to the city is through a 1.2-kilometer-long gorge called the Siq, which leads directly to the Khazneh.</li><li>It had remained unknown to the world until Johann Ludwig Burckhardt rediscovered it in 1812.</li><li>Petra is also called ‘Rose City’ due to the color of the stone from which it is carved</li><li>Its rock-cut architecture and water conduit system continue to attract a huge number of tourists, and it has been a UNESCO World Heritage Site since 1985.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/8Cau99" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Petra Facts For Children</a> <h2>Great Wall of China</h2>Historical place in Beijing, China<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/e98bf54c-f84b-4a8c-81a6-ae66279cd62d.jpg_image_1644924469975.jpg" width="358"><ul><li>The Great Wall is the collective name given to a series of fortification systems built across the borders of the country.</li><li>The purpose of the Great Wall was to protect as well as mark the territories of the Chinese states and empires.</li><li>Several of the walls were found to have been built as early as the 7th century BC, but the most well-known sections were built by the Ming dynasty (1368–1644).</li><li>It was designated a UNESCO World Heritage site in 1987 and attracts many visitors every year.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/TbJeh9" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Great Wall Of China Facts For Children</a> Help your child learn about some of the wonderful structures of the world and we hope this article helped in achieving the same!

Our world is filled with the most unique structures that are both man-made and natural. Some of these have been listed in the wonders of the world.

7 Wonders of the World - The New, The Natural and The Ancient.

Our world is filled with the most unique structures that are both man-made and natural. Some of the man-made creations include churches, tombs, temples, monuments, mosques, buildings and even cities.

The Seven Wonders of the World 

Any kind of soda, soft drinks are not advisable for kids as they are sugar flavoured drinks that pose a high risk of obesity in children.

Is it okay if my child drinks soft drinks | Health Concern

Any kind of soda, soft drinks, or artificially sweetened juices are not advisable for kids as they are sugar flavoured drinks that pose a high risk of obesity in children. In addition, children who drink sodas or soft drinks also have dental problems like cavities. Hence, it is best that you avoid such drinks and instead give your child(ren) fresh fruit juices.

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