<ul><li>Well! Actually it is good to have grandparents around in the same house.</li><li>The child feels loved and warm in their company and sometimes they help you&nbsp;check your own destructive behaviour like screaming or yelling on your child.</li><li>But when these grandparents spoil them with loads of toys and sweets and extra permission of watching T.V or playing games, the matter worsens.</li><li>Here the parents, husband and wife, need to come together and stand up for each other. Whenever there is a conflict between the adults in the home, there is always a power struggle which has a bad impact on children.</li><li>Make a conversation with your child. Make him/her sit and explain your child that whatever their grandparents are doing they are doing out of love. But when it comes to making important decisions or making rules for the child it is parents’ responsibility because they are accountable for the child. We don’t have authority over the grandparents but we have on the child as a child is not an adult.</li><li>Make a conversation on this basis. Be calm, have firm tone and Keep repeating.</li><li>You can talk to grandparents and make them realise that this is spoiling your child’s habits in long run but chances are less for them to change.</li><li>Final word is focus on your own parenting instead of changing grandparents. Also accepting the grandparents without any hard feelings will help in nurturing the characteristics of being non judgemental in our kids.</li></ul>

Conflicts between parents and grandparents are bound to happen but this should not affect your baby in any way.

Dealing with overly pampered children by grandparents

Following a particular way of living and following a healthy lifestyle can sure lead to raising a happy and emotionally balanced adult. Things what we learn in childhood stay with us forever. So investing time in raising a happy child is worth it. 1. Teach gratitude:When parents show gratitude, their children grow up more enthusiastic, joyful, interested and engaged in the world around them. Teach them to be thankful for every small and big thing in life. Teach them to be thankful to nature, parents, resources, family, toys, meals, their beautiful body and everything around them. 2. Help your child to handle their emotions:Allow your child to feel all the emotions. Happy, sad, mad, crazy, messy, frustrated, annoyed or whatever. Encourage your child to label his/her feelings and express them verbally. 3. Teach them to be hopeful and patient:When your child is unable to do his/her own thing, they tend to get frustrated. For example, when they are trying to tie shoelaces by themselves. You can tell them its okay not to know things and they can learn at their own pace. Ask them to try again and be there for them when they try. This is how they learn to handle frustration with hope and patience. 4. Allow unstructured, unhurried time:Do not over-schedule your kid’s time with activities. They need their time to play. It is that time when they learn, invent, create and daydream. Allow your child to play by her/him and at her/his own pace. 5. Follow your child’s interest:Get to know your child better and ask about his likes, dislikes and interests. If you follow your child’s interest he is going to shine in that activity and he would be thankful for your support. Be accepting in whatever hobby or activity your child decides for him/herself. 6. Create Routines:Daily rituals and routines are some of the most basic ways to instil a sense of security. Like family meals, bath and bedtime, family swimming lessons, jogging, cycling together, and joining yoga classes as a family. Such routine can build up bonds between families and the child feels loved, wanted, safe and happy. 7. Give undivided attention:Communicating with them, giving undivided attention is a vital part of happy bonding with your child. Teach them to build meaningful relationships. Set an example. Whenever they try and approach, put aside your phone; switch off the TV, if you are watching. 8. Set reasonable boundaries and attainable goals:Whenever you set any limit for your child, keep their age and personal nature and behaviour in consideration. Every child is different, their pace is different and their capacities are different. Accept them wholeheartedly and set their goals and limits accordingly. It should be reachable and attainable for your child. 9. Focus on the process:Like if you have set a goal of a certain result in the school; focus on their hard work and efforts, focus on the learning process and not only on their results. Sometimes the desired outcome doesn’t come in the first go. But don’t forget to appreciate their efforts and encourage them to be better next time. Make them feel you are there in their failure and success both. The feeling of parents supporting their children is the most secure feeling for the child.

Things what we learn in childhood stay with us forever. So investing time in raising a happy child is worth it.

Raising a happy child

Ravina Sewani

Most small cuts aren't a danger to children. But larger cuts often need immediate medical treatment.For minor bleeding from a small cut or scrape:<ul><li>Rinse the wound thoroughly with water to clean out dirt and debris.</li><li>Wash the wound with a mild soap and rinse well.</li><li>Cover the wound with a sterile adhesive bandage.</li><li>If the bandage gets wet, remove it and apply a new one.</li><li>Check the wound daily.</li><li>Call your doctor if the wound is red, swollen, tender, warm, or draining pus.</li></ul> For bleeding from a large or deep cut:<ul><li>Rinse off the wound with water. Do not use alcohol, or similar agents to clean the wound. They will cause pain and irritation and will not clean the wound any better than clean water.</li><li>Wash your hands so they are clean before you help your child. Preventing the wound from getting infected is your first priority. Place a piece of sterile gauze or a clean cloth over the wound.</li><li>Using the palm of your hand on the gauze or cloth, apply steady, direct pressure to the wound for 5 minutes.&nbsp;</li><li>If blood soaks through the gauze, do not remove it. Apply another gauze pad on top and continue applying pressure.</li><li>You can use an antibiotic ointment to protect against infection and help keep the bandage from sticking to the wound.</li><li>Once a cut or scrape has formed a scab, you can leave it open to the air.</li></ul> Call your doctor for all large or cuts if:<ul><li>You can't stop the bleeding after 5 minutes of pressure</li><li>Something else stuck in the wound</li><li>The wound is on the child's face or neck</li><li>The cut is more than half an inch long or is deep — large or deep wounds can result in nerve or tendon damage.</li><li>Fever</li></ul>

Most small cuts aren't a danger to children. But larger cuts often need immediate medical treatment.

Cuts and Scrapes in children

Palak Vyas

You can incorporate different activities to introduce colours to your baby. This can be started around the age of 18 months or anytime when you feel your child is ready. Different children have different learning abilities and have their own pace of grasping new things so work accordingly. For a toddler, colours are a little difficult to identify compared to identifying shapes. Whatever you wish to introduce, do it one at a time. Give your child sufficient time to grasp the concept and learn the difference. If you are starting with colours, the first thing you should teach them is to recognise different colours and learn the name. Repeated exposure to the same colour will help them learn effortlessly. Initially, they can mix up colours which is normal and okay, give them time. Introduce only one colour in a week and talk about the same colour for the entire week. Point at different objects and ask them to identify and name the colour. You can plan following activities to teach colours or you can design yours too: <ul><li>Make a book of colours, either by sticking pictures of the same colour as a red ball, red apple, red strawberries, and so on.</li><li>Take different coloured crayons and different coloured boxes and tell your child to sort the crayons by putting them into matching coloured boxes.</li><li>Play with your food. Sort different coloured food in the kitchen with your child. For example group apples, strawberries, red bell pepper together. Put yogurt, bread, and sugar in another group.</li><li>Paint pebbles with watercolours with your child. This will help your child in learning the colours as well as improve their sense of touch.</li><li>Learning tools like coloured blocks and shapes available in the market can be purchased.</li></ul>

Colours and shapes are very fun concepts to be explored with children.

Introducing colours to your child

Discipline teaches your child how to behave and how not to behave in social and routine situations. It also lays the foundation for the kind of adult the child is going to be. Discipline can never be taught just by punishment. Instead, discipline should be taught by talking, listening and showcasing the behaviour you want your child to learn. Babies under the age of 3 do not really understand good or bad behaviour. Building a routine such as sleeping on time and waking up on time, eating home cooked meals, etc. can be done with toddlers. You can inculcate disciplined behaviour among toddlers by:<ul><li>Making family rules and sticking by to them yourself as well. Like talking politely to each other, taking care of each other, everyone helps in household work, taking care of own belongings.</li><li>Appreciate&nbsp;your child’s effort for the little good things they learn. Like when they keep shoes or bag at the respective places, appreciate it. This will motivate them to keep up the good behaviour.</li><li>Do not shout and yell at children in public or private&nbsp;for misbehaviour, instead make a note of the incident and talk about it during bed-time. Ask the child and let them answer about right and wrong behaviour, this will make them conscious about their behaviour next time.</li><li>Appreciate good behaviour.&nbsp;Make&nbsp;a chart and give them stars. Let them earn stars by depicting good behaviour example: helping at home, putting their things at the right place, cleaning their room etc.). This will make them understand that it’s important to hold on to routine and good habits in life.</li></ul>

Discipline teaches your child how to behave and how not to behave in social and routine situations. It also lays the foundation for the kind of adult the child is going to be.

Keeping a child in discipline

Mustafa Lokhandwala

Permissive parenting has very few rules and expectations of children. Most times, the parents are loving and express caring about their children, but they don’t see their children as mature or capable enough to carry out certain tasks or responsibilities that require self-control. This style has also been linked to riskier behaviours in older children, like heavy drinking in adolescents and alcohol-related problems as young adults. These parents do not expect mature behaviour from their children and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. Ask their children's opinions on major decisions. Emphasize their children's freedom rather than responsibility. Have few rules or standards of behaviour, any rules they do have are inconsistent. May use bribery such as toys, gifts, and food as a means to get a child to behave. Characteristics Permissive parents are highly responsive to their children’s needs and nurture their talents and personality. But they are least demanding because they have low expectations on discipline and self-regulation from their children. <ol><li>Responsive and demanding –&nbsp;Permissive parents are warm and responsive, and that's a good thing. Parents show affectionate which create a secure attachment in relationships. It protects a child from stress and anxiety.</li><li>Friendly behaviour -&nbsp;The parenting style is characterized by parents having a very friendly attitude towards their children. The parents behave more like friends with their kids.</li><li>Loving and Nurturing –&nbsp;Parent often loves and adores their children. The parent will respond to the child’s emotional needs, whether truly necessary or not. They typically do not lack in this department. If a child is not being affectionate, a permissive mom or dad will often try to buy their child’s love and affection with gifts and bribery.</li><li>Self-control –&nbsp;In this style parent behaviour towards their child leads to bad habits in terms of nutrition, screen time, poor sleep schedule and many other aspects of life. A child is not able to understand the long-term effects of these poor choices.</li><li>Child freedom -&nbsp;Permissive parents allow their children to do as they please. These types of parents may even be afraid to set limits. With free roam, a child will over-indulge in unwanted things. In the parent’s eyes, this allows the child to be “true to their nature.”&nbsp;</li><li>Uses gifts and bribery -&nbsp;When a child acts up, permissive parents are often afraid to discipline their child. Instead, they will use bribes (candy, money, electronics, etc.) to persuade the child to do what they want.</li></ol> Effects on Children Children may love the permissive parenting style as it gives them the maximum freedom without any strings attached. But it could be problematic in the long-run. <ul><li>Struggle&nbsp;to learn good problem-solving and decision-making skills.</li><li>Display&nbsp;low academic achievement.</li><li>They may be&nbsp;demanding and have difficulty sharing.</li><li>Lack of boundaries results in&nbsp;insecurity in a child(ren).</li><li>May not take responsibility for their behaviour.</li><li>Show&nbsp;more aggression&nbsp;and&nbsp;less emotional&nbsp;understanding.</li><li>Unable to manage&nbsp;their habits and behaviour.</li><li>More likely to be&nbsp;overweight.</li></ul> Pros of Permissive Parenting As this parenting style focuses on being a friend to a child rather than a parent, the parents understand their children better, and communication becomes easy as they grow old. Here are some more benefits of permissive parenting: Self-assurance -&nbsp;When children are encouraged to express themselves freely, they will become more confident and willing to try new things, regardless of the consequences. Unconditional love is the key to raising a child who values him or herself.Exploration&nbsp;- Permissive parenting allows children to have more freedom, thus inspiring them to undertake new adventures with a greater sense of confidence.Creativity&nbsp;– Parents allow freedom and not limit their children; Hence they experiment with all sorts of passions and hobbies creative and imaginative play children can grow emotionally, socially, intellectually, and even physically. Cons of Permissive Parenting Giving excessive leniency may have significant negative consequences. Let’s see what the drawbacks of permissive parenting are: A conflict between needs and wants -&nbsp;As children grow older, they might demand a lot of things and have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations. They need guidance and limit-setting from their parents. Since parents do not want to upset their children, they give their children everything they ask for. The child does not learn the difference between needs and wants.Lack of time management -&nbsp;In the absence of rules and behaviour at home, these children may not learn the value of time. They might spend too much time watching television or playing online games.Lack of parental control -&nbsp;In permissive parenting, the child may come to feel that they are in charge rather than their parents, and experience that can generate significant anxiety.Emotional imbalance -&nbsp;Children who do not have limits set on their behaviour can have difficulty regulating their emotions, especially when their needs are not met.

Permissive parents usually take on more of a friend role than a parent role. They often encourage their children to talk with them about their problems, but they usually don't put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behavior.

Permissive Parenting

Raising a gender-neutral child is need of the hour. Rewrite the rules and divide the roles equally. These are some things that you can inculcate to raise a gender-neutral child: <ul><li>Divide both domestic and professional duties equally among yourself (parents). There should be no gender-specific duties at home.</li><li>Read them inspiring stories of both genders without getting bias or judgemental towards anyone. Stay as much neutral as you can. So they will automatically learn the concept of equality without. Do not introduce terms like fairer or weaker sex for any gender.</li><li>Let them choose the toys they want. Do not judge or insult if, for example, your son chooses a doll to play with or if your daughter chooses a car to play with.</li><li>Let there be no colour stereotypes. Both boys and girls can wear pink, blue or any colour for that matter depending on their choice.</li><li>Never insult your son if he cries, do not call him names or compare him to girls. Refrain from judging your daughter for being angry; don’t tell them that anger is a “boy thing”. Children are emotional beings. Let them express their emotions in whichever way they want.</li></ul>

Children, by birth, do not know gender bias. Hence it is important to not unknowingly introduce gender bias to children.

Raising Gender-neutral children

Keep the following things in mind while inculcating the listening skill in your child: <ul><li>Be a good listener yourself:&nbsp;Avoid interrupting your child when (s)he is talking or saying something.</li><li>Try and give simple and easy instructions.</li><li>Whenever your child listens carefully, always praise them.</li><li>Teach them why it is important to be a good listener.</li><li>Model good communication skills.</li><li>Ask them to repeat what you said after they have heard you completely.</li><li>Read stories to them and let the child predict the ending.</li><li>Listen to audio stories as family time.</li><li>Play games like Simon says, add-on stories (where everybody adds their own sentences and the story moves forward), Copy cat (where you say funny rhyming words which the child has to repeat), and many such.</li><li>Listen patiently whenever they talk to you and teach them the same.</li><li>Help your child build vocabulary so they can convey easily and understand what is being said.</li><li>Always remember that young children have short attention span so never say multiple things at one go.</li></ul>

Children model their parents the most. Develop the listening skill yourself and then help the child to achieve the same.

Teaching child to be a good listener

Parameters for selecting baby wipes are branded or generic, scented or unscented, disposable or reusable. <ul><li>You can choose a generic product to be cost-effective if you are comfortable with it.</li><li>Some babies have highly sensitive skin. So for them, you can opt for unscented wipes and even reusable cloth wipes.</li><li>Before buying in bulk, it is recommended that first you try a handful of variety and decide for yourself which suits your child the best.</li><li>Baby wipes come in two different packaging. One is a plastic box and other is a pop up wipe box. The plastic box is refillable so it's more convenient. Go for the one you’re comfortable with.</li><li>Flush-able wipes are also available; you can directly flush them off.</li><li>You can also find reusable and disposable wipes. Disposable wipes are convenient and more sanitary. The reusable wipes are recommended for infants, newborn babies whose skin is very sensitive. This is an economical and eco-friendly option as well. You can experiment with both the types and depending upon the convenience and suitability of your child, you can use any.</li><li>Always read the ingredient list for the disposable wipes. Select alcohol-free and fragrance-free product.</li><li>Compare the sizes available and check which one is cost-effective and solves the purpose.</li><li>Do not reuse disposable wipes. Always moisten reusable cloth wipes with warm water and clean them thoroughly after use.</li></ul>

Baby wipes are wet cleaning clothes used for hygiene purposes. Buy wipes which are gentle on your baby's skin.

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