Are we exhibiting what we want our kids to be? Call it a harsh reality but children rarely learn from what we preach, they learn from our actions. Take this for an example, an anonymous user on the internet confessed that her child would hit her younger sibling while playing. Her explanation in defence was, “We are playing ‘mommy”. We all aspire to become perfect parents for our kids because we want to inculcate values in them that would make them better human beings. But the larger and the more significant question is do we exhibit that kind of discipline in our behaviour? We expect our children to use modern-day gadgets judiciously but do we supervise our use of these products? We want our kids to watch their words and actions when angry but do we manage our anger appropriately? We want our kids to show decorum and discipline with their daily routine but are we exhibiting ourselves as an example to do the same? Dr Haim Ginott, a renowned child psychologist, pointed out, “Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.” If we give the child an environment of hostility he is more likely to learn to fight. An environment of ridicule and shame can lead to the child resulting being shy and guilty. But similarly, if the child had always lived with tolerance, he learns to become more patient. If he has always received praise, he learns the virtue of appreciation. What is important during the child’s growing years is that we model the kind of behaviour we expect our children to be. It is impossible to not be stressed or angry under circumstances. But when the parents manage their stress and anger appropriately, the message is loud and clear to the kids that it is normal to feel negative at times but it is only the positive attitude towards solving these problems that reap good results. Parents should ‘speak’ and ‘do’ what they expect out of their children. Saying statements like. “I love all kinds of food”, “I love playing outdoors”, “Let’s clean up the mess together”, “Let’s help little brother/sister with eating the food”. These kinds of statements bring about assurance in the kids and before indulging in the wrong they are forced to do what think what they have been taught. The brains of children are like sponges. They absorb everything without discriminating information into right or wrong. Let's set ourselves as better examples for our children. Let's exhibit what we want our children to be.

Are we exhibiting what we want our kids to be? Call it a harsh reality but children rarely learn from what we preach, they learn from our actions.

Children See Children Learn - The pillar of parenting

Being a positive role model for your child can help instil the right attitude and habits from an early age for your child to nurture a healthy lifestyle.

Children See Children Learn ~The pillar of parenting

A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and so much more. Throughout your parenting journey, make sure you are not saying things or acting out in a way that could damage your child(ren) mentally. Sometimes parents are not aware that their actions affect their child(ren) negatively, and sometimes parents overlook it and justify their bad behaviour due to their stress. Here are a few practices which you should avoid telling your child(ren): Pick these up right now. I don't want you leaving a mess like that again.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't like this mess you are leaving. Can you please clean this up when you have time? You should know better.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's OK not to know some things. Here, I will help you out. You're a bad kid.Instead, say:&nbsp;Can you tell me why you behaved/acted in such a way? I feel it wasn't right, is there anything you want to talk about? Or Else.&nbsp;Example: Eat dinner, or else you won't get your dessert.Instead, say:&nbsp;How about you take a healthy dinner quickly so that we can all enjoy dessert together?&nbsp; Stop being shy.Instead, say:&nbsp;You can come to say hi to your aunt when you are ready. You should set a good example for your brother.Instead, say:&nbsp;Your brother looks up to you; you're such a good role model. Wait until your father/mother gets home.Instead, say:&nbsp;You're grounded because you said a bad word. I will never forgive you.Instead, say:&nbsp;What you did was not acceptable, but we can look past it and move on if you think the next time. I'm ashamed of you.Instead, say:&nbsp;Although I feel bad about what you did, I love you for who you are. Don't worry; everything will be OK.Instead, say:&nbsp;Mom and Dad are always nearby, and we're going to set up a plan in case of emergency. Here, I'll do it.Instead, say:&nbsp;Let's do it together!" Don't cryInstead, say:&nbsp;I know you're sad, and it's OK to cry. It's OK to let out your emotions. Let me hug you. If you don't clean your room, you're going to be in big trouble.Instead, say:&nbsp;When your room is clean, then you may go out to play. Family finances aren't your business.Instead, say:&nbsp;Finances are how we make and manage money, and when you like, we will teach you what we know. I'm disappointed in you.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm surprised and was not expecting this to occur. Come here, NOW.Instead, say:&nbsp;It's almost time to go. Do you want one minute or two? Because I said so.Instead, say:&nbsp;Explaining why you feel a certain way about something. We can't afford that.Instead, say:&nbsp;We're not going to buy that because we're saving our money for more important things. Don't talk to strangers.Instead, say:&nbsp;What would you do if a man you don't know offers you candy and a ride home? OR If anyone makes you feel sad, scared, or confused, you need to tell me right away. You should listen to adults.Instead, say:&nbsp;You need to listen to your parents. Don't be greedy!Instead, say:&nbsp;Would you please be kind and share your toys with your friend? Who taught you this? (about mischief)Instead, say:&nbsp;Why did you do that? Look at this lovely girl.Instead, say:&nbsp;I love you. You can do this too. I do everything for you.Instead, say:&nbsp;We do things for you because we love you, so please do for me. Do I have to tell you this 100 times?Instead, say:&nbsp;I've told you this before, but could you please. That's only for boys/girls.Instead:&nbsp;Say nothing at all. Try your best at raising gender-neutral children. You live under my roof, so you follow my rules.Instead, say:&nbsp;You know the household rules. Please stick to them. That's how I was raised.Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't think it's a good idea to do [ ]. Even my parents used to tell me that [ ]. You're just like your mother/father!Instead say:&nbsp;I’m not happy with [ ] because [ ]. I told you so.Instead, say:&nbsp;I'm sorry to hear about [ ] ... let this be a lesson. It's just a little white lie.Instead, explain to them that it's OK to use white lies to be polite and not hurt someone's feelings. Explain to them the fine line between lies and little white lies. Man up. / Be a man.Never disregard your son's feelings. Don't teach them that showing emotions is weak. To show emotions is only human. Why can't you be more like your sister?Instead, say:&nbsp;I don't quite like this behaviour of yours. Do you think we can work on it? If you loved me, you wouldn't do (this/that).Don't teach them that love needs to be proven all the time. Love comes without ifs and buts. I wish you'd never been born. / I hate you.No matter how angry you are, this is the worst thing to say. You would be scarring your child. Why can't you do anything right?Instead, say: What's the barrier? Is there anything I can help you with? I don't believe you.Instead, say: This comes as a shock for me. But I am sure you can tell me the whole thing. There's nothing to be afraid of.Instead, say:&nbsp;Everyone has their fair share of fears. We appreciate that you shared your feelings with us. We promise we will work on this together. You're lazy/stupid/selfish.Never label your child. Never. Your friends don't do that.Comparison will never bring any positive change. Accept your child for who they are and appreciate them. You should have done better.Praise them for their achievement. Do not over expect. You don't know what you're talking about. / You're too young to know what you want.Often children know what they want or how they feel. Saying this will show your distrust in their feelings. You'll never be able to do that.Instead, encourage and push your child to do better, of course, without any comparison. You're so fat/skinny, or You're going to get fat/skinny.Never attribute a child's identity to their looks. You make me so mad.Calm your anger down, and then talk to your child(ren).&nbsp;Instead, say:&nbsp;We will talk about this after a while when I am in the right state of my mind. Impact of such phrases on children:<ol><li>Antisocial behaviour</li><li>Poor resilience</li><li>Depression</li><li>Aggression</li><li>Lack of empathy</li><li>Difficulty in relationships</li><li>Self-doubt</li><li>Lack of self-confidence</li><li>Anxiety</li></ol>

A few things said in haste messes up a child's brain and have a considerable impact psychologically, like low self-confidence, self-doubt, anxiety and so on

Speaking Gently: Things you should never say to your child

A few things said in haste messes up a child’s brain and have a huge impact psychologically.

Things You Should Never Say to Your Child

From time immemorial humans have built spectacular structures, buildings, monuments and other wonderful structures that have amazed historians and common people for generations. Some of these structures have been listed in the wonders of the world. If your child has an interest in history and wants to know about all these amazing structures, we recommend reading this post. The Seven Wonders of the World are the Taj Mahal, the Colosseum, the Chichen Itza, Machu Picchu, Christ the Redeemer, Petra, and the Great Wall of China. <h2>The Taj Mahal</h2> Mausoleum in Agra, India<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/istock-478831658.jpg_image_1644919995550.jpg" width="367"><ul><li>The Taj Mahal has known the world over for its beautiful architecture, history and the tale of love that led to its creation.</li><li>Located in the Indian city of Agra, the Taj Mahal was commissioned in 1632 by the Mughal emperor Shah Jahan as a testament of his love for his departed wife Mumtaz Mahal.</li><li>Apart from housing her tomb, it also contains the tomb of Shah Jahan himself.</li><li>The mausoleum, built with ivory-white marble and precious stones, was designated as a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1983.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/kB0M1d" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Taj Mahal Facts For Children</a>&nbsp; <h2>Colosseum</h2>Historical place in Rome, Italy‎<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/95a24eaa-5e33-4778-b06c-96654f3dbf87.jpg_image_1644920980948.jpg" width="357"><ul><li>Also known as the Flavian Amphitheatre, the Colosseum is an oval-shaped amphitheater located in the center of Rome in Italy.</li><li>Built with concrete and sand, its construction began under Emperor Vespasian in AD 72 and it was completed by his successor, Titus, in AD 80.</li><li>It is the largest amphitheater in the world and had the capacity to host about 80,000 spectators.</li><li>In ancient times, it was used for gladiatorial contests and public spectacles such as mock sea battles.</li><li>Its other activities included animal hunts, famous battle re-enactments, executions, and mythological dramas. Today, it is a popular tourist attraction and an iconic symbol of Imperial Rome.</li></ul> Read More <a href=" https://www.beeparenting.com/u/2zyJbj" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Colosseum Facts For Children</a> <h2>Machu Picchu</h2>Historical place in Peru<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/5120.jpg_image_1644924350549.jpg" width="355"><ul><li>Located in the Eastern Cordillera of southern Peru on a 7,970 ft mountain ridge, Machu Picchu is a 15th-century Inca citadel.</li><li>It is the most familiar icon of Inca civilization, and is often mistaken for the ‘Lost City of the Incas’.</li><li>Most archaeologists believe that it was constructed as an estate for the Inca emperor Pachacuti around the year 1450 and then abandoned a century later at the time of the Spanish conquest.</li><li>The Spanish had no idea about its existence and it was only brought to international attention in 1911 by American historian Hiram Bingham.</li><li>Built with polished dry-stone walls, Machu Picchu has declared a Peruvian Historic Sanctuary in 1981 and a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1983.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://www.beeparenting.com/u/D28O5d" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Machu Picchu Facts For Children</a> <h2>Christ the Redeemer</h2>Historical place in Brazil<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/wp1991636.jpg_image_1644924383798.jpg" width="357"><ul><li>A very well known work of art in Brazil, Christ the Redeemer is an Art Deco statue of Jesus Christ.</li><li>It was created by French sculptor Paul Landowski and built by Brazilian engineer Heitor da Silva Costa, in collaboration with French engineer Albert Caquot.</li><li>Romanian sculptor Gheorghe Leonida fashioned the face.</li><li>Made of reinforced concrete and soapstone, it weighs 635 metric tons and is located at the peak of the 700-metre Corcovado mountain in the Tijuca Forest National Park overlooking the city of Rio de Janeiro.</li><li>Construction began in 1922 and it was completed in 1931.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/8poi1p" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Christ the Redeemer Facts For Children</a> <h2>Chichen Itza</h2>Historical place in Mexico<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/chichen-itza-at-dusk-596317367-59fccc9f4e4f7d001a6e28bc-6413cc54773c455ca95de2ec39b793c8.jpg_image_1644924405885.jpg" width="364"><ul><li>Chichen Itza is an archaeological site located in Tinicum Municipality of Yucatan State in Mexico.</li><li>It was a large pre-Columbian city built by the Maya people and was likely to have been one of the mythical great cities.</li><li>It is one of the most visited archaeological sites in Mexico and consists of buildings like the El Caracol or observatory of Chichen Itza, Temple of the Warriors, Grand Ballcourt, Venus Platform, and others</li><li>It was designated as a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1988.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/B01Xis" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Chichen Itza Facts For Children</a> <h2>Petra</h2>Historical place in Jordan<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/jordans-petra-a-keeper-of-secrets.jpg_image_1644924431539.jpg" width="361"><ul><li>Originally known to its inhabitants as Raqmu, Petra is a historical and archaeological city in southern Jordan.</li><li>It is believed that the area around Petra was inhabited as early as 7,000 BC, and the access to the city is through a 1.2-kilometer-long gorge called the Siq, which leads directly to the Khazneh.</li><li>It had remained unknown to the world until Johann Ludwig Burckhardt rediscovered it in 1812.</li><li>Petra is also called ‘Rose City’ due to the color of the stone from which it is carved</li><li>Its rock-cut architecture and water conduit system continue to attract a huge number of tourists, and it has been a UNESCO World Heritage Site since 1985.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/8Cau99" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Petra Facts For Children</a> <h2>Great Wall of China</h2>Historical place in Beijing, China<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/e98bf54c-f84b-4a8c-81a6-ae66279cd62d.jpg_image_1644924469975.jpg" width="358"><ul><li>The Great Wall is the collective name given to a series of fortification systems built across the borders of the country.</li><li>The purpose of the Great Wall was to protect as well as mark the territories of the Chinese states and empires.</li><li>Several of the walls were found to have been built as early as the 7th century BC, but the most well-known sections were built by the Ming dynasty (1368–1644).</li><li>It was designated a UNESCO World Heritage site in 1987 and attracts many visitors every year.</li></ul> Read More <a href="https://beeparenting.com/u/TbJeh9" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Great Wall Of China Facts For Children</a> Help your child learn about some of the wonderful structures of the world and we hope this article helped in achieving the same!

Our world is filled with the most unique structures that are both man-made and natural. Some of these have been listed in the wonders of the world.

7 Wonders of the World - The New, The Natural and The Ancient.

Our world is filled with the most unique structures that are both man-made and natural. Some of the man-made creations include churches, tombs, temples, monuments, mosques, buildings and even cities.

The Seven Wonders of the World 

Movies are not only a source of entertainment but can also be a powerful medium to spread messages. Movies educate children and provoke their creative thought processes. Pop the popcorn, dim the lights, and get ready for a family movie night. But what to watch? There are endless options for children’s entertainment these days — from always-on TV channels to streaming kids' TV shows to the new sequels, plus plenty of animated movies, live-action remakes, and reboots that get cranked out every year — the quality on them varies. <h3>08 Best Kids' Movies of All Time, From Old Classics to New Favorites</h3> <h3>1. Movie Name: Finding Nemo (2003)</h3>Movie Type: Family, AdventureIMDB: 8.1/10Duration: 1h 40mMorals: Love, family values, journey, disability, support, surprise.Age Group: Recommended for ages 5 &amp; up.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/finding_nemo.jpg_image_1634735242296.jpg" width="415">Laugh until your tummy hurts as this timid clownfish dad searches the great ocean for his son. Every underwater creature has a catchphrase that’ll become your guppy’s new mantra. Just keep swimming … just keep swimming!Rated G. <h3>2.&nbsp;Movie Name: Home Alone (1990)</h3>Movie Type: Family, ComedyIMDB: 7.6/10Duration: 1h 43mMorals: Courage, family reunion, robbery, trap, loneliness.Age Group: Recommended for ages 7 &amp; up.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/home_alone.jpg_image_1634735326703.jpg" width="423">This perfect Christmas movie will give your tots a movie dose of bravery, when it comes to being by themselves, as they watch a smart-aleck eight-year-old defend his home from a pair of bumbling burglars. Note: There is some sibling squabbling that isn't all that nice.Rated PG. <h3>3.&nbsp;Movie Name: The Karate Kid (2010)</h3>Movie Type: Drama, FamilyIMDB: 6.2/10Duration: 2h 20mMorals: Bully, sports, violence, faith, hard work, success,Age Group: Recommended for ages 9 &amp; up.&nbsp;<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/the_karate_kid.jpg_image_1634735370987.jpg" width="434">This remake of the 1984 classic is geared toward a slightly younger audience with the help of the talented Jaden Smith, who stars as the new kid on the block who struggles to learn karate to fend off bullies and win the girl.Rated PG. <h3>4.&nbsp;Movie Name: Akeelah and the Bee (2006)</h3>Movie Type: Family, DramaIMDB: 7.3/10Duration: 1h 52mMorals: Aggression, bravery, competition, dedication, discipline, hard work, Respect, struggleAge Group: Recommended for ages 8 &amp; up.&nbsp;<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/akeelah_and_the_bee.jpg_image_1634735412724.jpg" width="440">A little girl from a tough neighbourhood in LA learns she's got a knack for spelling—and that she doesn't need to change herself to fit in. Lawrence Fish burn stars as the spelling tutor who coaches her to the Scripps National Spelling Bee while teaching her to believe in herself. Note: There is some mild profanity in the film, so parents who have a no-tolerance policy toward this may want to wait a few more years.Rated PG.<h3>&nbsp;</h3><h3>5.&nbsp;&nbsp;Movie Name: Cool Runnings (1993)</h3>Movie Type: Sport, ComedyIMDB: 7/10Duration: 1h 38mMorals: Sports, runner, legacy, friendship, competition, responsibility.Age Group: Recommended for ages 8 &amp; up.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/cool_runnings.jpg_image_1634735754231.jpg" width="455">Everything seems stacked against these athletes who are completely unprepared for the cold, let alone bobsledding. Loosely based on a true story of the Jamaica national bobsled team, Cool Runnings is a real inspirational film for young dreamers.Rated PG.&nbsp;<h3>6.&nbsp;&nbsp;Movie Name: Coco (2017)</h3>Movie Type: Family, ComedyIMDB: 8.4/10Duration: 1h 45mMorals: Adventure, fantasy, mystery, stunning, beautiful, colourful, powerful, happiness.Age Group: Recommended for ages 7 &amp; up.&nbsp;<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/coco.jpg_image_1634735790013.jpg" width="461">Based on the Mexican holiday, Dia de Los Muertos or Day of the Dead, Coco tells the tale of 12-year-old Miguel who finds himself in the Land of the Dead and with the help of his musician great-great-grandfather dives deep into his family history (and their generations-old ban on music!). There are strong family vibes in this blockbuster, and your kids will love the whimsically colourful, melodic story!A note for parents—this movie deals with the concept of mortality and could be slightly upsetting for young kids.Rated PG&nbsp;<h3> 7. Movie Name: A League of Their Own (1992)</h3> Movie Type: Sport, Comedy, Drama IMDB: 7.3/10 Duration: 2h 8m Morals: Team, friendship, values, reunion, emotional, tragedy. Age Group: Recommended for ages 8 &amp; older&nbsp;<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/a_league_of_their_own.jpg_image_1634735182263.jpg" width="457">If your kids ever ask you why girls don't play Major League Baseball, you can tell them, "They did"—and then show them this film, which tells the real-life story of the 1940s All-American Girls Professional Baseball League.&nbsp;Tom Hanks shines as the grumpy coach.Rated PG&nbsp;<h3>8.&nbsp;Movie Name: Inside Out (2015)</h3>Movie Type: Family, ComedyIMDB: 8.1/10Duration: 1h 35mMorals: Fantasy, joy, sadness, anger, memory, emotions, fear, imaginary, control.Age Group: Recommended for kids 7 &amp; up.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/inside_out.jpg_image_1634735096186.jpg" width="453">Kids may not understand the big concepts at the heart of the movie (that they're watching the personified emotions inside a little girl's brain), but they'll be entertained just the same. We think the real value is for Mom and Dad, who may learn a little something about what's going on in their kids' crazy little heads.Rated PG.&nbsp;<h3>Try the movie question guide</h3>To help facilitate conversations around movies with children, we’ve put together this movie question guide below printable version.<img src="https://bee-assets-production.s3.amazonaws.com/image/moviequiz_%281%29.jpg_image_1634736011833.jpg" width="455">

From classic musicals, princess tales, and animated animals to superhero adventures and holiday favourites, these must-see movies will appeal to the whole family.

08 essential movies every child must see (Before turning 10)

From classic musicals, princess tales, and animated animals to superhero adventures and holiday favourites, these must-see movies will appeal to the whole family.

08 movies every child must watch before turning 10

Following are a few tips to keep in mind while you babyproof the house: <ol><li>Keep the bathrooms locked at all times.</li><li>Lock and hasp on doors in rooms and bathrooms should be shifted up (at the height of an adult’s head).</li><li>Keep the cribs at the lowest height because as children advance developmentally, they tend to launch themselves out of the crib.</li><li>Change the positions of electrical boards, keep them high so that they are out of a child’s reach.</li><li>Check the sharp corners and cover them with soft rubber. Stick rubber cover at the corners of kitchen tables, beds, dining tables and TV units.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</li><li>If you are living in a double storied house, fix a small door on the staircase. This will ensure the baby doesn't crawl and climb up.</li><li>If the child is using a walker make sure there is no bump or slope on the floor.</li><li>Keep the heavy objects, sharp objects, glass objects and such hazardous objects out of reach of the child.</li><li>Keep the use of rugs at a minimum as children tend to slip because of them. If you do use rugs, put non-slip pads beneath them.</li><li>Unplug all electrical appliances when not in use.</li><li>Put all the sharp objects of the kitchen in cupboards.</li><li>Remove table cloths if any.</li><li>Install safety guards on windows and doors.</li><li>Make sure there's no water spilt anywhere in the house.</li><li>Do not paint or renovate the house immediately after the baby arrives home. The chemicals are harmful to the baby. Wait a few years and then make the required changes.</li></ol>

Children are curious by nature and they will explore everything you have in the house. So it's better to keep a check on all the things you have in the house before the baby arrives.

How to baby proof your house: 15 baby proofing tips 

Children are curious by nature and they will explore everything you have in the house. So it's better to keep a check on all the things you have in the house before the baby arrives.

15 Tips to baby proof your house

Trying new foods is an important part of development. Remember that children may need the same food to be introduced as many as six to fifteen times before they try it.

Is it OK that my child does not want to taste new foods

Trying new foods is an important part of development. But try and remember how you felt when you tried a dish for the first time? You might have felt strange or unpleasant. This is exactly how some children feel too, and it’s completely normal. Try not to over-complicate the food. Offer new foods at a time when your child is not tired and is reasonably hungry, but not too hungry. Remember that children may need the same food to be introduced as many as six to fifteen times before they try it.

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